Being Courageous is one of the most satisfying feelings that we can experience in life.
If we grow up in the midst of tension, anxiety, neglect and abuse from the people who should provide safety and reassurance we are likely to be full of insecurity and fear.
Even if we achieve successes in life, still imprinted in our brain is the constant worry and the fearful anticipation of incoming failures.
The breath is shallow and constricted, the voice is hesitant and the belly is a bundle of tensions. We struggle to affirm our worth, we adapt to unhappy situations in fear of loneliness and disaster.
We choose to go upstairs and live in our heads imprisoned in our thoughts, trying to avoid going downstairs where the emotional life is. We dissociate or become obsessive-compulsive in an attempt to cut off or keep the feelings at bay. Feelings don’t go away just because they are ignored and not felt. It takes a lot of energy to suppress them.
Fear is a thief who robs us of the greatest conquest in life: serenity.
The word Courage is based on a Latin word which literally means “acting from the heart”, letting the heart and gut feelings guide our actions.
If our anxieties are the product of our early relationships, then by practicing today relating with courage and honesty, we recover and heal.
My job for many years has been to bring and hold together people from different life experiences, ages, cultures, using a variety of resources for the common goal: reconstructing a freer and more secure self.
I find this journey from fear to courage is both turbulent and exciting at the same time, as it is in the body: we tremble with fear and we vibrate with excitement and aliveness.